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The Truth Factor

Let’s Talk!

Let’s start by watching the following movie clip:

This is, of course, the famous scene from the film A Few Good Men (1992) starring Tom Cruise, Jack Nicholson, Demi Moore and Kevin Bacon. This courtroom thriller tells the story of how inexperienced Navy lawyer LT Kaffee (Cruise) defends two Marines accused of murdering a PFC named Santiago. As a last resort, Kaffee cross-examines Col. Jessup (Nicholson) and coerces him into telling the truth.

Whenever the subject of truth is discussed, I often replay with amusement this scene in my mind. The high emotional charge of this movie clip is a good illustration of the ambivalent relationship most people have with truth. They usually insist on being told the truth while often not being able to “handle the truth”.

Let’s explore this idea…

According to Wikipedia truth is defined as “in accord with fact or reality, or fidelity to an original or to a standard or ideal”. This definition implies that there is such a thing as an objective truth, and that it is possible to identify it, and to align one’s behaviour with it.

In a TED talk titled “How to spot a liar”, American author Pamela Meyer affirms that we are all liars. In fact, it is socially acceptable to lie and tolerate lies from others. Most of these lies are considered “white” lies that help minimize friction in social interactions.

The more developed the neo-cortex in animals, the better they are at lying. Therefore, humans are quite competent liars. We start lying very early in life. Meyer points out that babies will fake crying, wait to see who responds to their cries, pause, and continue crying. One year-olds learn concealment while 2 year-olds bluff. By the time we become adults, most of us are expert liars.

Truth Pict 1bMeyer explains that lying is a cooperative act. We have to be willing to accept the lie. Also, lying bridges the gap between what we wish we were and who we really are. That gap may be significant because according to her, we are lied to on average between 10 to 200 times per day.

Family law attorney Neal Simon states that 75% of all lies go undetected. Furthermore, a review of 200 academic studies suggests that we are able to identify a lie only about 50% of the time. Sadly, law enforcement personnel and judges are no better at catching a lie than the average person.

Lies negatively affect our trust in others, but also the trust in ourselves. After all, if we lie on regular basis, we may assume others do the same. Consequently, most of us are cynical when it comes to believing what others tell us.

Our current politics culture reinforces our general disillusionment about people’s lack of integrity. We often do not believe in public figures such as politicians and official statements from government agencies. Actually, we readily believe negative facts over positive ones.

Trust is often damaged when we are lied to because we intuitively sense the selfish intention behind the lie. Based on my own experience, 90% of the time, people lie to protect themselves even when it harms others. The remaining 10% of the time, it is to protect someone who is (at least at the present moment) unable to face the truth. In other words, we tend to consider these “sensitive” individuals not as our equals since we give them a fictional rosy version of reality that they can cope with.

Generally, people will be offended if told a positive or negative lie, but will also feel hurt by a negative truth. Ultimately, most people only want to hear positive truths, especially if it’s about themselves. Unfortunately on Earth, there are a significant greater number of negative truths compared to positive ones.

One of the other major drawbacks of being inundated with lies is that it promotes divisions and wars. Psychiatrist David R. Hawkins points out that the endless wars fought by humankind over many centuries is due to the fact that peace is the consequence of objective truth prevailing. Therefore lying plants the seed of separation, injustice, fear, violence and ultimately war.

Truth Pict 2The distortion of truth can range from omissions, exaggerations, minimizations, to pure fabrication of facts. Also, lies can vary from “white” benign ones to betrayal and criminal offenses that can have severe consequences for whole countries.

One telltale sign that someone is lying is that their story often doesn’t make sense. There is only one version of objective truth, therefore all the pieces of the story fit perfectly well together. Lies often leave obvious gaps that simply cannot be filled with logical answers.

However, there is a difference between being truthful and being honest.

Webster’s dictionary defines honest as “showing or suggesting a good and truthful character”. This definition suggests that a person has pure intentions, and is not trying to deceive others. However, that person could still unknowingly give false information to people. In other words, they honestly didn’t know the truth, but others could still be harmed by them.

The concept of honesty brings to light that many people perceive life and truth differently. We have to take into account factors such as the person’s age, gender, sex, culture, education,  level of awareness and time in history before understanding their perception of what is true.

How do we determine the truth?

For centuries, man has tried many methods to separate truth from falsehood. Some of these methods were rather odd.

For example in West Africa, criminal suspects passed a bird’s egg to one another. The person who broke the egg was considered guilty because it was assumed that nervousness over the commission of a crime made their hands shake and damage the delicate eggshell.

In ancient China, potential criminals held a handful of rice in their mouths during the prosecutor’s speech. If the rice remained dry at the end of the speech, the criminals were declared guilty.

Nowadays, people can be subjected to polygraphs to determine their innocence. However, according to American reporter Dan Vergano, the average accuracy of the polygraph is only about 61%, which is quite lower than the accuracy rate of 80-98% claimed by the American Polygraph Association.

One can also study the face of people to identify micro expressions. The concept of micro expressions is based on Psychologist Paul Ekman’s work on universal emotional expressions such as happiness, anger, disgust, fear, sadness, surprise and contempt.

Whenever a person is under intense stress (i.e., being interrogated) micro expression lasting between 1 and 1/25th of second involuntary occur on their face. It is possible to determine the person’s true emotions, but still this does not mean that the said emotion is related to a lie.

Essentially, the basic assumption of these different methods of lie detection is that when someone lies, some of their automatic functions (i.e., heart rate) will show some change and betray them.

Truth Pict 3Luckily, there is a more reliable way to determine a past or present truth. American Chiropractor Dr. Bradley Nelson and Hawkins among others, have use kinesiology to get to the truth.

When someone keeps in mind a truthful statement, muscles remain strong and when we lie, our muscle strength automatically decreases. The truthfulness of the statement is beyond time or space, therefore we can transcend context. Furthermore, we don’t have to use the suspected liar for the test since the Universe is an infinite internet database accessible to all at anytime and everywhere.

However, there is an important caveat to using kinesiology: In order for the test to be valid both individuals – the tester and tested – have to have reached basic integrity and be unbiased. This may sound obvious, but according to Hawkins only about 20% of the world population have reached that level. It is therefore important to test the level of awareness of both individuals before the test by asking basic questions such as their name, and see how their body reacts.

Interestingly even without the use of kinesiology, many people can experience objective truth. When one tells the truth, there is an immediate surge of energy and a lightness felt throughout the body. It is as though the Universe, using the body as its interpreter, joyfully says “Yes!” to truth.

The concept of truth affects every part of our lives. Every moment of the day we are faced with the decision to either be truthful or to lie. Humankind has always struggled with this dilemma, both praising and simultaneously condemning the truth teller.

Although we might justify our lies, we know in our hearts that it leads us away from being authentic in our professional, social and private lives. Lies isolate by creating an emotional wall between us and people around us.

As the Western World proclaims to want peace, we first have to take the difficult step of being truthful regardless of how uncomfortable this may be. Luckily, there are ways to get to an objective truth with methods such as kinesiology. Hopefully, little by little we may one day say without hesitation “we can handle the truth”.

Literary Truths

According to Pamela Meyer author of Liespotting, here are other interesting facts about lying:

  • Men lie 8 times more about themselves than about other people.
  • Women lie more to protect other people.
  • Strangers lie 3 times within 10 minutes of meeting each other.
  • We lie more to strangers than to co-workers.
  • Extroverts lie more than introverts.
  • The average married couple lies 1 out of every 10 interactions. Unmarried couples lie 1 out of every 3 interactions.
  • When someone is truly happy, the muscles around their eyes will involuntarily contract when they smile.
  • Liars may forceful look directly into a person’s eyes to over-compensate for the fact they are lying.

Truth in Motion

References

Honest – Merriam Webster Dictionary
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/honest

Pamela Meyer: How to spot a liar
http://www.ted.com/talks/pamela_meyer_how_to_spot_a_liar.html

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Hawkins, David R., Power. Power Vs Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior. Carlsbad: Hay House, 2009.

Dr. Nelson, Nikken & The Emotion Code (Part 3)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=muHXRwstrcw

Simon, Neal, and Mario R. Ventreli. “How I learned to stop worrying about liars and love microexpressions.” American Journal of Family Law Winter 2012: 143.

Truth – Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Truth

The Law of Attraction: A Critique

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It’s the start of a new year.  Most of us will reflect on the events of the past year, and set new goals for 2014.  Some may decide to take action and make substantial changes in their lives such as choosing a different career, moving to another city or ending an unhealthy relationship.

In North America, this period of the year tends to be very profitable for the self-help industry because it can capitalize on people’s desire to overcome their perceived limitations.

The Secret Pict 1A classic example of such a trend is the movie and the book The Secret (2006) by Rhonda Byrne. The Secret became an almost instantaneous New York Times bestseller, was featured on Oprah, and by 2009, had grossed $300 million in sales.

The Secret exposed many people to the concept of the Law of Attraction.  It appealed to a large audience, but also generated negative critiques from well-respected self-help gurus such as Anthony Robbins and David R. Hawkins.

Let’s critically review some of the ideas put forth in The Secret, and understand why this film has generated such controversy.

Throughout history, the Law of Attraction was known only to the rich and powerful.

All the great religions of the world are based on timeless spiritual principles such as truthfulness, love and altruism.  The concept that we draw to ourselves the consequences of our habitual thoughts and actions are found in Holy books such as the Bible and the Koran.

For example, you reap what you sow is a clear reference to the Law of Attraction. This concept was also popularized in business in the early part of the 20th century, with classic books such as Think and Grow Rich (1937) by Napoleon Hill.

Therefore, it’s not true that the Law of Attraction was purposely kept from the masses in order to control them.  It’s more accurate to say that The Secret was never hidden, but in plain sight.

Furthermore, one of the implications of blaming the rich and powerful is that the masses don’t need to take responsibility for their lives.  The average person may assume that if they were told years ago about the Law of Attraction, their lives would be totally different. However, even the late motivational speaker Jim Rohn underlines the fact that only about 10% of people consistently act based on what they know.

Anyone can easily use the Law of Attraction.

The Universe is designed so that we are all the consequence of our habitual thoughts and actions, whether positive or negative.  This Law is therefore automatic, but to use it in a positive way requires daily self-discipline that many lack.

The phenomenal success of The Secret can be largely attributed to the seductive idea that the Universe is like one’s own ATM machine.  In other words, without any effort, anybody can have whatever they want just by thinking about it.

Furthermore, the examples used in the movie emphasized material goods like cars, houses and jewelry.  The wishes were mostly about satisfying one’s personal desires. Less tangible, yet truly loving goals, such as the well being of others or world peace were not mentioned.

The Secret Pict 2Late psychiatrist and spiritual teacher David R. Hawkins explains that even the term Law of Attraction is not accurate.  Instead, it should be called the Law of Intention because in the unmanifest world where pure subjectivity rules, intention is the main driving force to bring the unmanifest into the 3-D world.

According to Hawkins, from a scale of 1 to 1000 of levels of human consciousness, the Law of Attraction calibrates at 250. He also states that unless someone has reached the level of basic integrity at level 200, they most likely will manifest what they don’t want.  Unfortunately, about 80% of the world population calibrate below 200.  Therefore only about 20% can effectively use the Law of Attraction.

Hawkins further reveals that the “language” of the Universe is unconditional love.  Therefore, a highly integrous goal requested by a highly integrous person will have an almost 100% success rate.  Also, a fearful thought (level 100) only generates log 10-800 millionto log 10-700 million microwatts. In comparison, a loving thought (level 500) is much more powerful since it measures approximately log 10-35 million microwatts.

Consequently, people who have reached the level of Love (about 4% of the world population) are very good at manifesting their desires.  When someone reaches the Unconditional Love level or Enlightenment (about 0.4% of the world population), they have become masters of manifestation. Ironically, these individuals are rarely interested in material goods, and usually live very simple lives.

You can be and do anything you want.

The Law of Attraction is not the only law in the Universe.  In the manifest world, there is for example, the Law of Gravity and the Law of Opposites.  In the unmanifest world, there is the Law of Karma and the Law of Free Will.

Furthermore, there are almost 7 billion people in the world today who have their own free will, desires and goals.  The Law of Attraction does not supersede the basic right of others to determine their own destiny.

According to the classic spiritual book Bhagavad Gita, the goal of life on Earth is to undo negative karma and gain a positive one. We are “One” and every person has a specific role to play on this great journey.

The Secret Pict 3Moreover, we can raise our level of consciousness as high as we want, but we cannot do anything that we want. Interestingly, the unconscious goal of everyone is to be happy, and true happiness only occurs when one reaches the level of Love.

The Universe is similar to an infinite Internet database, and every intention, thought, emotion and action is recorded for eternity.

We each build a spiritual back account, and before granting a wish, the Universe automatically evaluates if the person has “earned” the wish.  That’s why loving people tend to have their integrous dreams come true because of all the good they have done in their lives.

However, even if one lives according to physical and spiritual laws, some “negative” events may still occur. Anthony Robbins points out that life is about growth, and the difficult situations are an opportunity for us to grow beyond our comfort zone and become more.  Also, these “negative” events may be a saving grace because they might have prevented an even more painful situation down the road.

Another year has gone by, and a new one has begun.  For many, it is a time to take a step back and decide to make wiser choices for the future.

The North American self-help industry will eagerly produce all kinds of material to “guide” people on their journey to self-improvement.

The Secret  (2006) was a phenomenal business success mainly because it promised the average consumer a wonderful life without having to invest a great amount of time or energy.

However, there is more to the Law of Attraction than meets the eye. For example, one has to have basic integrity to use it, and this Law has to work in conjunction with other physical and spiritual laws.

Hopefully, this critique of The Secret  may help many of us understand the subtle mechanisms of this world, and make the required changes that can make 2014 a productive and exciting year!

Literary Truths

According to the ideas put forth by Napoleon Hill, David R. Hawkins and Anthony Robbins, here is a more effective way of using the Law of Attraction:

  • Live an integrous life: It’s very important that your emotions, thoughts and actions be aligned. You also need to treat others the way you want to be treated. Be grateful for what you already have; therefore you will already feel successful and blessed. This integrous way of living increases self-esteem, self-love, and overall energy.  You will then truly feel deserving of the very best in life.
  • Have a healthy lifestyle: Eat healthful food, exercise and get enough sleep. Avoid tobacco, alcohol, gossip and negative news on television.  On a daily basis, read uplifting books, listen to upbeat music and motivational CDs. Surround yourself with positive, intelligent, talented, and driven people who will inspire you to reach your full potential.
  • Choose a believable yet exciting goal: Choose a goal that is exciting, but also that you honestly believe you can achieve.  Make the goal specific enough to focus on, but broad enough so that the Universe has a variety of options to deliver what you essentially want. When you are successful with a minor goal, move on to a bigger and more difficult one. Your earlier success will build your self-confidence and increase the likelihood of reaching your other goals.
  • Work on your goal daily: Every day, take inspired action towards your goal. Often imagine the final result while feeling very positive emotions. Produce the best quality work that you are capable of, and give much more than you receive.  Become an expert in your field and you will be protected from economic downturns.
  • Be tenacious, yet flexible: If you have a goal that requires many years of hard work, you may need to change your approach a few times to make your dream come true.  Listen to constructive criticism and accept the help of skilled people who can help you speed up the process.

Truth in Motion

References

Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada, A.C., Bhagavad Gita As It Is – Second Edition. Los Angeles: The Bhaktivedanta Book Trust, 1983.

Jim Rohn – Best Life Ever (Full length)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3a_AzFk32oo&noredirect=1

Napoleaon Hill – Think and Grow Rich – Original Full Length
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UmCtWskzmAQ&noredirect=1

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The Secret – The movie
http://vimeo.com/69728726

The Secret – Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Secret_%28book%29

Tony Robbins on Being Ready for a Relationship & Law of Attraction
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zFx_TolJk64

Love: A Healer’s Perspective

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“(…) the mind does not really ‘know’ anything.  If anything, it only knows ‘about’, and it cannot really know because to really know means to be that which is known (…)”

David R. Hawkins, The Eye of the I

Throughout my life I have heard people casually use the word ‘love’.  For example, they love a person, their pet, their favorite dish or music. What that ‘love’ usually means is a fondness for someone or something. Although they may be sincere, my intuition senses that these statements do not reflect reality.

Let’s explore this idea…

Everything in the Universe is made of energy – people, animals, plants, food, objects, thoughts and emotions.  Each energy level has a frequency and certain characteristics that make it unique.  Generally the higher the energy, the greater its capacity to sustain life.  For example, organic raw food is usually more healthful than highly processed food.

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Love is also a particular level of energy. Thanks to American psychiatrist David R. Hawkins, this energy can be measured through kinesiology on a scale from 1 to 1000, and can gage where someone is in terms of their spiritual evolution. That measure is usually very stable throughout people’s life unless there is a dramatic event that rewires their nervous system.

According to Hawkins, the level of love (500) marks a significant perceptual shift in a person from a linear, logical worldview to a nonlinear, spiritual one.  Consequently, the individual becomes right brain dominant with a measurable increase in brain endorphins, alpha waves, and brainwave coherence.

Love comes from the Heart chakra and has a soothing effect on its surroundings. Only about 4% of the world population has reached this level. When this love becomes unconditional at calibration 540, it emanates from the Crown chakra and miracle healings spontaneously occur. Only one person out of 250 presently functions at that level.

It is critical to understand that in order for someone to know what love is, he or she has to become love.  In other words, love is not a fleeting emotion, but a stable level of awareness with a corresponding energy and frequency signature.

As an energy healer, my experience of love is very different from most people. Healers are usually able to see or feel the energy around them.  Therefore, they can easily detect if someone vibrates at the level of love. Based on various experiments I have conducted, love could be defined as “a particular intensity of life energy that promotes health”.

Fear and love can be placed on a continuum, with one end leading to death and the other life. Fear is therefore the opposite of love (see the diagram below).

Fear vs Love

Love is a very gentle, light, warm, harmless, yet powerful energy.  It is supportive of life and therefore gives energy to its surroundings. By contrast, fear is a very irritating, heavy, cold, weak, harmful energy that absorbs energy from its surroundings.  The greater the love or the fear, the more their respective characteristics are felt.

When it comes to sex, the energy of love is essential for it to be a positive experience.  Although many people use the expression ‘making love’, in reality they are ‘making fear’ as both individuals involved in the sexual exchange often have not reached the level of love.

How does love heal?

Based on my observations, when people are fearful their bodies contract and there is reduced energy, blood flow and nutrients going to certain organs.  If the fear is constant, the most vulnerable organs will eventually malfunction and disease sets in.

Anyone whose energy is higher than someone else can have a positive effect on that person’s well being.  However, a natural born healer is a person whose energy is significantly higher than most people or is at the level of unconditional love.

During a healing session, the transfer of unconditional love energy from the healer to the client often results in ‘miracle’ healings.  This energy has the capacity to quickly relax the body and increase blood flow and nutrients to the affected areas.

These healings are viewed as miraculous because they do not follow the prevailing Newtonian linear paradigm. Also, there are yet no devices that can measure life energy to verify its existence, although the effects of that energy are evident.

It is important to underline the fact that unconditional love does not mean perfection.  The word ‘love’ could be substituted for health, therefore unconditional love can be translated as a ‘very healthy or whole energy’.

One of the great challenges of being human is that the old reptilian and animal brain is still present and functional.  Therefore animal instincts and aggressive tendencies persist although we have a prefrontal lobe that allows us to be rational.

Love, Healer's Persp Pict 2Interestingly, the seat of love and fear can be identified in the human brain. The amygdala, an almond-shape set of neurons located deep in the brain, is associated with the modulation of these emotions.  Paradoxically, the right amygdala is associated with fear whereas the left one with love.

Behavioural neuroscientist Todd Murphy has studied the brains of enlightened individuals.  He noticed that the right amygdala of these people was deactivated, and only the left one worked at full capacity.  Therefore enlightenment might mean that a person has permanently lost the ability to feel fear and has conquered his/her animal nature.

It may be difficult for most people to imagine living without fear or its other associated negative emotions. But according to a Course in Miracles and many spiritual masters, unconditional love and the ability to perform miracles is our normal state. Thus the fact that the vast majority of people are not enlightened is the anomaly.

Fortunately, we can all reach that state of permanent bliss. Practices such daily meditation and leading a moral life help us move away from fear and closer to unconditional love, and eventually we can all become enlightened.

There are many concepts in relationships that have not been clearly defined and love is one of them. Healers tend to have a different view of love because contrary to most people, they are able to see or feel this particular energy.

Love is the opposite of fear, and loving individuals often behave in positive, life affirming ways. Unfortunately, most people are still dominated by their animal instincts, which prevent them from experience true joy.

However, we are all born with the capacity to live in a state of bliss.  We need to have a strong desire to reach that goal and follow certain practices such as meditation that can deactivate our brain fear center.  Therefore we can transform ourselves from a spiritualized animal to a loving human being.

Interested in buying the book The Eye of the I?  Click here

Interested in buying the book A Course in Miracles? Click here

Literary Truth

According to A Course in Miracles, miracles based on unconditional love have some of the following characteristics:

  • Are under Source control – Only the Higher Power knows when it is appropriate to perform a miracle.
  • Collapse time – Miracles are a learning device that eliminate the need for time, therefore the lesson is instantaneously learned.
  • Have no order of difficulty – Raising the dead or healing someone from a common illness both require no effort.
  • Are natural – The absence of regular miracles is a sign that something is wrong.
  • Are thoughts – Thoughts that represent the spiritual level of existence are conducive to miracles.
  • Are performed through prayer – It is the way human beings communicate with Source.
  • Are the maximal service a person can render to another – It is the way to love our neighbour like ourselves.
  • Should inspire gratitude, not awe – Miracles should not be used as spectacles to convince people of the existence of the spiritual realm.

Truth in Motion

References

Enlightenment, the Self and the Brain
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zqrpKUTMXgY

Hawkins, David R., The Eye of the I: From Which Nothing is Hidden. Sedona: Veritas Publishing, 2001.

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Schucman, Helen, A Course in Miracles (3rd edition). Mill Valley: Foundation for Inner Peace, 2007.

Real Love in Marriage

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Can couples have an unconditionally loving marriage?  Author Dr. Greg Baer explores this topic in his book Real Love in Marriage, which is the sequel to his first book Real Love. I will highlight some of the practical advice found in this paperback that can help us have a happy union.

Baer summarizes basic principles found in Real Love in the first two chapters of his second book.  He reiterates that the essential ingredient for long-term joy in life is real (or unconditional) love. Real love is defined as “caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves”.

When we offer real love to someone, we are not angry or disappointed if the person does not reciprocate or is inconvenient. Unfortunately, most of us have been given conditional love, which has very negative effects on our well-being and that of people around us.

Conditional (or imitation) love implicitly says to people that they will only be accepted if they behave, look and possess certain mental abilities/qualities. The acceptance received is in the form of praise, power, pleasure and safety. In this atmosphere, most of us feel empty and afraid, and use Getting and Protecting Behaviours such as lying, attacking, acting like a victim, running and clinging to protect ourselves.

Real Love in Marriage

Most people enter into marriage with a lifetime of lack of real love.  They usually “fell in love” with their current partner because s/he is the one who gave them the greatest amount of imitation love. Sadly, conditional love never lasts because the partners can’t keep up with the charade and eventually show their true colours. Also, the effect of imitation love lessen overtime and a much greater amount is required to have the same effect.

When most people get married, they unconsciously believe that their vows mean:

“I promise to make you happy – always.  I will heal your past wounds and satisfy your present needs and expectations – even when you don’t express them.  I will lift you up when you’re discouraged.  I will accept and love you no matter what mistakes you make.  I give you all that I have or ever will have.  And I will never leave you.”

According to Baer, the real purpose of marriage is “a commitment we make to stay with our partners while we learn to unconditionally love them”.  It also requires that we stay even when our partner is not loving and to limit the sharing of some resources (i.e., sex, money) with that person.

The author introduces the concepts of the Law of Choice and the Law of Expectations.  The Law of Choice states that “everyone has the right to choose what he or she says and does”.  Therefore even if we are married, we have no right to control our partner’s behaviour.

The Law of Expectations is a by-product of years of lack of real love.  Since most of us are starving for true acceptance, we tend to have enormous expectations of people we care about, especially our spouse.  If we can’t get the real thing, we will than settle for great amounts of imitation love. The problem is that rarely can one person (i.e., our spouse) fulfill such unrealistic needs, and we become bitterly disappointed when s/he falls short.

The way to feel truly loved is first by telling the whole truth about ourselves to someone who is able to accept us exactly the way we are.  By being seen by these “wise” individuals, we will feel accepted and unconditionally loved for who we really are.

Real love gives us the ability to become ourselves wise men/women and accept others the way they are because we naturally feel loving and safe. That love can be expressed through a variety of actions such as listening to others, apologizing when we make mistakes, performing random acts of kindness, and giving of our time.

Real Love in Marriage Pict 2There are common mistakes that couples make in their relationship that can jeopardize the union.

Couples often don’t have a mission statement for their marriage.  In other words, both individuals should have as their main goal to do everything they can to make their spouse and marriage their number one priority.  Each time either one fails to do so, s/he puts a dent in the stability of the union.

People tend to wait until they have a long laundry list of complaints about their spouse before they try to resolve them.  The challenge with this approach is that they are likely to be very angry when discussing this list of grievances, and the partner usually feels attacked and becomes defensive.

The more constructive approach is to determine what is truly important for the health of the relationship, and speak only when both of you are receptive to a genuine exchange.

Baer recommends not compromising when we are trying to resolve an issue with our spouse.  He explains that compromise implies that both individuals have to give up something they really want to keep the peace. Instead when partners are genuinely cooperative, both can have their needs met and be happy.

Although we shouldn’t try to control our mate’s behaviour, we can make clear and specific requests. These requests are made when we are calm and if s/he agrees, we can expect our spouse to follow through.  A sure sign that the request is in fact a demand are feelings of disappointment if our partner refuses it.

Many people use sex as a source of praise, power and pleasure. The long-term result is that sex is unfulfilling because it is use as form of imitation love. Men tend to enjoy sex even when they feel emotionally disconnected from their partner, whereas most women need to feel loved before opening up sexually.

Ironically, some men may appear “obsessed” with sex when in reality they are attempting to fill the emptiness they feel from a lack of real love. When both partners feel unconditionally loved, the woman’s sexual appetite usually dramatically increases, and the man’s may decrease because the quality of the sex greatly improves.  Also, we may perceive our mates as more physically attractive than they actually are because of the shared unconditional love connection. Therefore there is no stronger aphrodisiac than real love.

Most of us were not given the proper tools to have a fulfilling marriage. In his book Real Love in Marriage, Dr. Greg Baer gives practical advice to couples in order for them to achieve lasting happiness by incorporating real love in their lives.

Baer emphasizes truthfulness, personal responsibility, effective communication, commitment, and perseverance in order to have a happy union.  Therefore an unconditionally loving partnership is not a fantasy but a reality achievable for many of us.

Interested in buying the book Real Love in Marriage?  Click here

Literary Truth

Here are other topics explored in Real Love in Marriage:

  • Chores and agreements: the fair division of daily household responsibilities. How to plan, be specific, and keep a written record.
  • Discussing each other’s mistakes: how and when to constructively tell the truth to our mates about areas where they need to improve.
  • Other aspect of sex: the male and female anatomy. How to effectively engage in foreplay/sex with our partner and the importance of orgasm.
  • Cheating: the reasons behind unfaithfulness and how to prevent it from occurring. The different forms of cheating and its impact on a marriage.
  • Divorce: cases when divorce is necessary. How to amicably separate assets and minimize the negative effects on the children.

Truth in Motion

References

Baer M.D., Greg, Real Love in Marriage. New York: Gotham Books, 2006.

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The Magdalen Manuscript

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A few weeks ago, I read a book titled The Magdalen Manuscript by Tom Kenyon and Judi Sion. I was very intrigued by the title, as I’ve often wondered about the real identity and role of Mary Madgdalen in Jesus’ life. Also, I questioned the true place that women held in early Christianity as well as the link with human sexuality.

Kenyon is a musician (psychoacoustics), researcher, and Transpersonal Psychotherapist whereas Sion has a background that’s mostly in communications, advertising and writing.  Their paths crossed through a series of unusual events, and the two became best friends, business partners, lovers and ultimately soulmates in their joined efforts to help bring back the Feminine Element in a male dominated world.

The core of The Magdalen Manuscript is a series of channeled sessions of the Magdalen Spirit using Tom Kenyon’s body as a vehicle. Kenyon spoke while Sion took meticulous notes.  These sessions took place between Thanksgiving and Christmas, 2000.

Tom Kenyon is the first to admit in his introduction of the book that he is unsure if the Mary Magdalen story that he channeled is factual. However, he explains that the internal alchemical methods that Magdalen describes is very accurate, and has the potential to have a very positive impact on how women and sexuality in general are understood in the context of spiritual evolution.

There are three main sections to the book: 1) the channeled Magdalen Manuscript; 2) the fundamentals of Internal Alchemy; and 3) Judie Sion’s life story. I will highlight the major points found in these three parts.

Mary Magdalen’s father was from Mesopotamia and her mother from Egypt. When she was 12 years old, she started her Initiate training, learning about the secrets of Egypt, the Alchemies of Horus, and the Sexual Magic of the Isis Cult. An Initiate is someone who has decided to leave behind ordinary life and chosen to explore the different levels of human consciousness.

Jesus’ (Yeshua) mother (Mary) was also trained in Egypt as an Initiate of the Cult of Isis and became a highly developed Master.  The purity of her spirit, her natural abilities and training enable her to be the right vessel for the Immaculate Conception of Yeshua.

Initiates of her order were often mistaken for prostitutes by the Hebrews because they were all required to wear a gold serpent arm bracelet. However Yeshua (also an Initiate) and Mary Magdalen immediately recognized each other and knew the vital part that they would play in each other’s lives.

Magdalen became Jesus’ wife, his preferred disciple, and a respected spiritual Master.  Therefore at the dawn of Christianity, women held positions of power equal to men.  This equality of power officially changed after the Council of Nicea in 325 AD.  At that landmark historical event, Emperor Constantine ordered the adding of the “prostitute” label to Mary Magdalen, and declared that Christianity was the new and unifying religion of his empire.

Shortly before Yeshua was crucified, he and Mary Magdalen conceived of a child named Sar’h. Fearful for their lives after Yeshua’s crucifixion, the child and Mary Magdalen fled west.  They spent the rest of their lives between France and England.

Mary Magdalen’s main role was to help Yeshua increase his energy (Ka) body through the Sexual Magic techniques in order to prepare him for the crucifixion. Contrary to many of his followers’ perception of him, Yeshua had many doubts, and wondered if he would have the courage to go through the crucifixion ordeal. Also, although he saw the potential for greatness in others, he was well aware of people’s very limited level of awareness. This reality troubled him deeply.

The Ka body is the exact copy of the physical body but it is made of energy and light. When greater energy is infused into this aura layer, it can be easily seen with the naked eye. Furthermore, a strong Ka increases one’s magnetic field and gives the person the ability to quickly manifest things in the physical world.

The Ka body resides in the quantum realm where pure subjectivity rules. Any object that is less than 1/1000 of an inch in size is subjected to the laws of quantum physics such as the intention of an observer changes what s/he perceives.  The mind is the interface between the physical world (Newtonian) and the spiritual world (Quantum).  Consequently what one holds in mind tends to manifest in the physical world.

The Sexual Magic of Isis is the interaction of the active force (man) and receptive force (woman) as equals and opposites in the sexual union. There needs to be deep trust, love, truth and appreciation between partners to successfully engage in this ancient practice.  Therefore the man and the woman have chosen to enter into a Sacred Relationship. In the process, an internal alchemical reaction takes place, and impurities are brought to light to be purified.

The energy produced during sex is directed upwards through the spinal column in a serpent-like fashion intersecting the 7 chakras. In this context, orgasms are optional or preferably avoided. As each chakra is penetrated by this energy, their corresponding functions/organs are revitalized.  For example, when the solar plexus (3rd chakra) is energized, one may become more self-assured and have healthier personal boundaries.

The goal is to use the energy generated during sex to rapidly increase the brain’s potential for intelligence, creativity, spiritual growth, and ultimately one becomes God-like.  Therefore, the “magic” of the Sexual Magic of Isis is the transformation of an intelligent animal into a true human being.

We may never know if the entity that Tom Kenyon channeled for the writing of The Magdalen Manuscript is the true spirit of Mary Magdalen.  However, the information that was received challenges the role of women and sexuality within the Christian faith.

The other sections added to The Manuscript by Tom Kenyon and Judi Sion help deepen our understanding of the role of the male and female elements for our spiritual growth. It may be because of the great benefit of practices such as the Sexual Magic of Isis that they have been kept hidden.  Thus this book can be the starting point in our own journey of self-discovery through Internal Alchemy.

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Literary Truths

Here is more interesting information found in The Magdalen Manuscript:

  • “Magdalen” is a spiritual recognition. There exists a hidden Order of Magdalen.
  • Yeshua and Mary Magdalen were married in a rabbinical tradition. Yeshua changed the water into wine during his wedding.
  • Yeshua exorcised the 7 demons (or impurities) out of Mary Magdalen by clearing her chakras.  She in turn purified his 7 chakras using the same method.
  • The Resurrection of Yeshua (Jesus) happened when his physical body dissolved into its constituent elements in a flash of light and heat.
  • For single people, it is still possible to energize the Ka through the sole practice of the Alchemies of Horus.
  • For same sex couples, the interaction of semen and the womb does not occur, but all the other aspects of the Sex Magic applies.
  • Internal alchemical practices often result in an increase in: 1) alpha and/or theta wave activity in the frontal brain areas; 2) endorphins and other “feel good” neurotransmitters; 3) right brain dominance; 4) relaxation response (slower breathing) and 4) paranormal abilities such as clairvoyance.

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References

Kenyon, Tom and Judi Sion. The Magdalen Manuscript. Orcas: ORB Communications, 2008.

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Kenyon, Tom and Judi Sion. The Magdalen Manuscript. Orcas: ORB Communications, 2008.